When help is turning to harm, it helps to have the right words to say …
How to Respond to Unsolicited Divorce Advice with Respect
© Kim Korven, The Conflict Queen kim@kimkorven.com
“I value your perspective and I’m confident the approach I’m taking to divorce is what’s best for me and my children.”
“I’m open to discussions, but let’s remember that divorce methods can and do vary, and what’s working for me might not work for everyone. That’s okay. The fact that my children aren’t stuck in the middle of a conflict makes me feel good about my choice.”
“Your support means a lot to me, and I have to be true to my family. I’ve chosen a path that I believe is best for my children’s wellbeing.”
“Divorce is never easy. It’s painful. I’m learning and growing as I experience it and I believe I’m making choices that resonate with my values and my hopes and dreams for my children.”
“I value different perspectives, but ultimately, I’m the one responsible for making this change in our family the best it can be for me and for my children. I’m comfortable with my choices.”
“I know s/he has hurt me. Yet we have children together. Focusing on my hurt doesn’t help them. For their sake, it’s important their dad/mom and I don’t become enemies. I’m following a divorce process so we can sit together at important life events. This way, our children learn parents don’t have to live together to treat each other with respect.”
“I know you care about me and want to protect me. As much as I’d like to fight for my legal rights, I know that will cost a lot of money and will engulf my children in conflict. I want this divorce to make their lives better. This is why I’m taking the approach I am.”
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