Disney and Divorce
Those old Disney movies might be impacting your relationship and where it’s heading.
Think about the story lines in Cinderella, Rapunzel and Snow White. Those women had no power.
They were portrayed as victims who had to be rescued by a handsome prince before they could live happily ever after.
Thanks to the messages from these fairy tales, I waited for a prince to rescue me from my first husband. This went on for three years.
I waited for a prince because I didn’t think I was capable of doing it myself. That prince? Wasn’t a new partner or a lover. That prince was my father. I expected him to help me.
He always had when I was younger. I thought I could turn to him.
It worked for Disney characters. Why not for me? With his help, I knew I could do it.
He had the good sense to refuse. After all, I was in my early 40s. He had no place helping me rebuild my life.
I had to figure out that it was my job to do that. I had to stop waiting to be rescued. No more procrastination for me. It was time to act.
I did it. Without help from a prince, I figured out how to end my marriage in a way that benefitted my family. Created a “happily ever after” by returning to law school to obtain a graduate degree.
That was scary. I hadn’t been a student in 15 years. I remember crying many times, as at first it took me an hour to read 6 pages. I kept going. My house was rented out and I couldn’t turn back.
Keeping going on that new path worked. I didn’t know what the outcome would be. I had to have faith. I had to learn to believe in myself.
I got lots of scholarships. Taught a class about real estate and ethics. Met new people. Figured out who I was. Proved to myself on so many levels that I didn’t need a prince.
All I needed was to be living a life that brought me joy. One where I was happy. I wasn’t getting it in my marriage, so I created it.
My kids loved that experience too. As I learned to thrive, so did they.
Are you ready to create happily ever after? Even if you have no idea of what it will look like. If you are, know I’m here to help. All you need to do is reach out to me at kim@kimkorven.com, or schedule a complimentary Fair & Family-Focused Divorce Consult. That’s how we’ll stop you from waiting for a prince, and take charge of your life.